Refugee/Immigrants Asking for Food Down in Town?
Right, so I’m a student at uni and it isn’t often that I go down to town but this has happened twice with the same person.
First time I was walking to the train station to go home and on my way, there was a teenage kid who came up to me and asked if I got spare change. Usually, I’d just ignore them but this kid, to me at least, looked like he needed help. So, since I was in a hurry, I pulled out the only thing I had in my wallet, a tenner, and gave it to him. But what surprised me was that he followed me, pretty much chased me and said it was too much. He told me that he only need milk for his two baby sisters. I said to him keep it, because again, it was the only thing I had anyways. So I went.
That happened months ago. But now, I came back to town and encountered him again. He didn’t recognize me, didn’t expect him to, and I didn’t recognize him initially, so he came up to me like he does to everyone else asking if he could get some food for his family. I, again, said sure so we went to Jollibees. Now at this point I was slightly suspicious and paranoid as I usually am but nonetheless told him he could get whatever he wanted for his family despite the fact that I am 900 quid in my overdraft. I asked him some questions and found out that he was Bosniak and that his father was Palestinian and that he wasn’t with them in the UK. Furthermore, his mom was pretty much on her own when she needs to care for 4 children and have a job as a cleaner. He told me that he wanted to get a job at a cornershop or a food stall to support his family as well but I assumed he couldn’t because he said his visa was still under application. When I paid for his order, he called his mom and elder sister over to have the meal with them. I don’t know where the younger sisters are since I thought they had to take care of them or something so I’m still sorta paranoid right now. They seemed really grateful nonetheless, the mom especially, I think at this point the boy felt really bad for asking me for a meal since he kept apologizing. I gave them an extra tenner like last time.
Based on the detailed description you provided, it seems like you were not necessarily scammed but rather encountered a family in need of help. The teenage boy’s story about his family situation, his background, and his desire to work to support his family adds credibility to his situation. Additionally, the fact that they were genuinely grateful for the assistance provided suggests they were truly in need.
While it’s always important to be cautious when approached for help by strangers, especially in urban areas, it sounds like you acted out of genuine concern and compassion. It’s commendable that you were willing to help someone in need, despite your own financial situation.
In similar situations in the future, if you feel comfortable and willing to help, it might be a good idea to ask more questions or offer to connect them with local resources or organizations that can offer assistance beyond just providing financial help.
Overall, it’s important to trust your instincts and assess each situation individually. Your willingness to help others in need is a positive and compassionate act, and it’s understandable to have some doubts given the circumstances. Keep an open mind and continue to show kindness and empathy towards those in need.